Discontent is the first necessity of progress - Thomas Edison


There are a lot of people out there who think that a creative writer must struggle and suffer the agony of pain and despair if he or she wishes to create meaningful work.


I don’t believe this, but…


In a way, it’s true. You can only appreciate something by comparison to its opposite. Until the pain you feel inspires within you an unstoppable force of energy that will not back down until it has fought through the darkest nights to see the beautiful sunrise. Until the pain which seems to be poisoning your soul is nothing more than a part of history.


The idea is simple: you turn the beast of burden into an invaluable ally.


That is to say that any foresight we have into the future is purely a projection of what has already happened: hindsight. If we want a life different from the one we're used to, it won't come by doing the same thing(s) we're used to.


If you want to change the world, you have to make your voice count


Professionally, during my Startup days, my job was to separate fact from fiction on blogs and social media platforms; to determine what is and isn’t true in the statements companies and "verified" accounts made.


Social media is a beautiful thing, but society has turned it into a dick-measuring contest. In reality, social media teaches an important lesson. Life is crowded, but everyone has free will. So if you want to garner the attention of the people, if you want to change the world, you have to make your voice count. Stand out from the crowd, back your words up with action.


The conspiracy-related posts that people share amongst each other are so ridiculous and so strange that you have to be a little bit loose and suspend reality if you want to try and believe any of it. That's when I realized that social media has created a space where the gullible and the amok can reach each other, totally free of consequence and accountability.


The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel. — Steven Furtick


Poetically said, Mr. Furtick. I couldn't have said it better myself.


Technology consumes us because it has stripped us away from reality. We care too much about what others think so much so that we post things in the hopes that we'll get admiration and approval from others.


The reality is that you care too much, and this is why I've stopped internalizing comments, positive and negative, in general. If it's negative, "Who the fuck are you that I should change myself based on your preferences?" If it's a positive comment, "While I appreciate you saying these things, you don't really know whether I'm a good person. I'm a good person in front of your eyes, but what about behind closed doors?" The only opinions I internalize are my own, especially if I'm giving myself feedback and trying to improve, or a friend or family member, if I sense that what they are saying seems true to me, or if I hurt them in some way. Then, I'll think about it. Otherwise, I might as well be an Instagram influencer with the bio "PLZ GIMME FLEETING INTERNET VALIDATION BECAUSE I'M VRY INSECURE."


The more you use social media in the same way that society uses it, the more you lie to yourself and pretend that you're happier than you really are. It's that simple. High schools really should have a class on how to use social media properly because nowadays, it's becoming more and more prevalent to use these platforms even at school.


Real-life is about struggles, not selfies, or near-nude photos that we post in the hopes of being sponsored by companies that only want your body, not your heart and mind.


I think social media is "rad", and I think it can be a beautiful outlet, if only we were real with our followers, but we rarely are. That's why I have this blog. My life rarely has highlight reels. It's all about the journey. The highlight reel comes when my story ends. It's why I don't use social media platforms. At the end of the day, real life is about enjoying the process, not becoming obsessed with the outcome.


My advice? Be true to who you are and not what your followers expect you to be. If you have true fans, they'll stick around. If not, you know that you were just eye-candy for them. Yes, it's important to share our successes but it's even more important to share the bad and the hard.




And now, a song I like