Doubt

Doubt must be no more than vigilance, otherwise it can become dangerous. - Georg C. Lichtenberg



With some regularity, people in the MH community are wondering if they are burnt-out. The suggestion is that they are more often suffering from doubt that then leads to unhealthy habits and eventually, burn-out.


Typically, it’s the ‘can-do’ people that tend to burn out. That's because if your life is centered around what you consider to be fun and relaxing, you're probably not at risk for burn-out in any serious way.


HelpGuide describes burn-out as "Feeling empty and mentally exhausted, devoid of motivation, and beyond caring. People experiencing burnout often don’t see any hope of positive change in their situations."


Symptoms of burnout include exhaustion, cynicism, and inefficacy and eventually, major health problems may arise.


Typical ways of dealing with burning out are completely changing the way you do things, a change of scenery, taking time to relax and meditate, and a plethora of other things.


What I observed in myself in the last week is that I often let doubt grow too powerful for me to really tell what's going on with me in times of emotional difficulty. "Will things ever change?" "I don't know why I thought I could ever be something I've never been. Happy and normal." "I will always default to the man in the PTSD jacket." As a result, the man under the jacket came back and handed me the gift of guilt and sadness, something I thought I left behind a long time ago.


Finding different things to derive self-value from is really important. When you rely too much on one thing, that thing is no longer a tool. It becomes a crutch, and so do traditional "coping tools."


Acceptance is Not Complacency


The one immutable truth about life is that it is often fairer than we give it credit for. You can’t make it equally fair for everyone right away, but you can take action to make it a little bit fairer after every experience you endure.


Self-acceptance is not an excuse to be lazy or complaisant with your flaws. It is not accepting that nothing can be done to change your current situation in life.


It is, however, knowing who you are; the good, the bad, and the ugly. It’s acknowledging the whole picture and working tirelessly to develop your character, improve on your strengths, build good habits, and fix your shortcomings — all without judging yourself.⁣


When are you going to get to a place in your life when you’re finally happy with who you are? Come out and enjoy life, let’s have fun!


Toxic words from a cancerous sect of individuals who don’t understand that one’s life is always a work in progress. The moment you decide to stop changing because “you’re finally okay” is the moment progress dies. It’s also the repetition of old habits that led you down a path that had you wanting to change in the first place.


If you’re happy with your life, that’s fantastic, I’m glad to hear it. But don’t for one second think that your work for self-improvement is done.


Complacency & self-love robs you of the will to take action. You’re not done changing until you’re riding in a Hearse and no longer alive.


I cannot continue to live as half of myself simply because it’s hard for others to handle all of me. Nothing that lasts is accomplished quickly. Nobody’s entire legacy is based on a single moment, but rather the collection of one’s experiences. If you’re lucky, your legacy will be a lifetime in the making. — Rachel Hollis


Doubt is like cancer. It starts out small and then it may metastasize. It plays you against yourself and tests you to see how strong you really are in terms of fighting against your demons. If you've made true changes, self-doubt will not win. If you've not come far enough, doubt will be strong enough to make you think that maybe what it's saying is true. Maybe you really haven't come far enough at all.


[So maybe comparing doubt to cancer doesn't fully make sense, but you get the point!]

You desire to know the art of living, my friend? It is contained in one phrase: make use of suffering. — Henri-Frédéric Amiel


The trick in life is to become a magician. To direct your focus on the parts of life you can control, rather than focus on the trickery that has you stalling and making you think you don't understand. Only the student has hope of defeating their master.


Again, "Doubt must be no more than vigilance, otherwise it can become dangerous." - Georg C. Lichtenberg